Every day I work with people who have big dreams and goals: they want to reach the pinnacle in their field, become a world famous specialist, write a book that will change everything, share their work with the whole world, change the lives of other people and so on . I also have big dreams, and for the last ten years I have tried to do everything necessary to make them a reality.
Studying the anatomy of a big dream, I saw that many - if not most - people with a big dream have the wrong attitude and a very erroneous idea of what is needed to achieve this dream. These ideas literally repel success.
What are these people doing wrong, and how can we get rid of these errors in thinking and behavior? Here are five traps that they set for themselves.
1. If you are fascinated by the life of a celebrity, your selfishness bothers you
When people share their dreams and their motivation with me, I can say in five minutes whether they are on the path to success or if they obviously turned the wrong way. If the whole dream revolves around you - receiving recognition, approval, awards, wealth, celebrity for the sake of celebrity - nothing will come of it. You use your dream to relieve deep-rooted feelings from the past that arose when you were not appreciated and ignored. But nothing will come of it.
People who have reached the heights in this world know how to hold and radiate tremendous energy. And to achieve the same, you need to do a lot of work to manage this force. I know this: many years ago, and I had the same feelings of inadequacy, and they posed insurmountable obstacles to the success of which I dreamed.
Your big dream will mature only when you lose the need to see yourself in the center of the universe and be the only hero in your history. You need to focus on how to help others, think about engagement, and attitudes toward service. Only when you stop thinking only about yourself, the road will be free.
Yes, in our society there are celebrities suffering from narcissism, fixated on themselves and have done little useful. But you do not want to repeat their path?
2. Effort is required 10,000 times more than you think
Yesterday I talked to a man who dreams of writing soundtracks for films, but has not yet shown his music to anyone in his life. For many years I hear such dreams from creative people who want to make a splash. And I also know people who have achieved great success in the art and music industry - and I’ll tell you, the road to such success requires 10,000 times more effort, time, labor, commitment, perseverance and tension than you think.
If you want to reach the very heights, do what is necessary for this - and this is both internal and external growth. This means that you must be fearless, courageous, persistent, relentless, you must be a strong competitor and communicate well, and also adequately imagine what you have and what not - to close these gaps and become the person you want to be. If you are afraid to show others your music, your blog or your developments, you will not achieve the success you dream of. Go ahead, show people what they’ve created, and cast aside fears about how they will perceive it.
3. You need to overcome yourself and answer “yes” to any appropriate and positive opportunity
Many dreamers have an overestimated, unrealistic idea of their own significance, and they constantly refuse new opportunities that they consider unworthy. This is a huge mistake. Start answering “yes” to all these wonderful new opportunities that will help you learn something, grow, find a niche in which you can serve people. You cannot give the world something meaningful if you answer “no” to all new opportunities to work out your craft and your skills.
4. You focus on the wrong people
Your career is highly dependent on the people you interact with. There is nothing more important for your success than the quality of your relationships and the nature of the people who surround you. Exalt yourself by exalting your social circle. Start communicating with people who are honest and sincere, willing to help, professional, smart, compassionate and inspire you - and find a way to help them. Then your world and your path to success will change instantly.
5. Your hopes for quick success and recognition hinder your long-term growth.
Your desperate desire to be at the top does not allow you to reach the top, because you are focused on those emotional (and financial) rewards that - as you think - are waiting for you there, and not on what you are doing in the world that is valuable now.
To get rid of these obstacles, you should daily
Learn how to do more good and at a higher level.
Open your eyes to what you don’t know, but what you need.
Achieve results that are comparable to the highest level in your area.
Sincerely communicate with people who do what you want to do.
Thinking of success in a broader sense, h
Studying the anatomy of a big dream, I saw that many - if not most - people with a big dream have the wrong attitude and a very erroneous idea of what is needed to achieve this dream. These ideas literally repel success.
What are these people doing wrong, and how can we get rid of these errors in thinking and behavior? Here are five traps that they set for themselves.
1. If you are fascinated by the life of a celebrity, your selfishness bothers you
When people share their dreams and their motivation with me, I can say in five minutes whether they are on the path to success or if they obviously turned the wrong way. If the whole dream revolves around you - receiving recognition, approval, awards, wealth, celebrity for the sake of celebrity - nothing will come of it. You use your dream to relieve deep-rooted feelings from the past that arose when you were not appreciated and ignored. But nothing will come of it.
People who have reached the heights in this world know how to hold and radiate tremendous energy. And to achieve the same, you need to do a lot of work to manage this force. I know this: many years ago, and I had the same feelings of inadequacy, and they posed insurmountable obstacles to the success of which I dreamed.
Your big dream will mature only when you lose the need to see yourself in the center of the universe and be the only hero in your history. You need to focus on how to help others, think about engagement, and attitudes toward service. Only when you stop thinking only about yourself, the road will be free.
Yes, in our society there are celebrities suffering from narcissism, fixated on themselves and have done little useful. But you do not want to repeat their path?
2. Effort is required 10,000 times more than you think
Yesterday I talked to a man who dreams of writing soundtracks for films, but has not yet shown his music to anyone in his life. For many years I hear such dreams from creative people who want to make a splash. And I also know people who have achieved great success in the art and music industry - and I’ll tell you, the road to such success requires 10,000 times more effort, time, labor, commitment, perseverance and tension than you think.
If you want to reach the very heights, do what is necessary for this - and this is both internal and external growth. This means that you must be fearless, courageous, persistent, relentless, you must be a strong competitor and communicate well, and also adequately imagine what you have and what not - to close these gaps and become the person you want to be. If you are afraid to show others your music, your blog or your developments, you will not achieve the success you dream of. Go ahead, show people what they’ve created, and cast aside fears about how they will perceive it.
3. You need to overcome yourself and answer “yes” to any appropriate and positive opportunity
Many dreamers have an overestimated, unrealistic idea of their own significance, and they constantly refuse new opportunities that they consider unworthy. This is a huge mistake. Start answering “yes” to all these wonderful new opportunities that will help you learn something, grow, find a niche in which you can serve people. You cannot give the world something meaningful if you answer “no” to all new opportunities to work out your craft and your skills.
4. You focus on the wrong people
Your career is highly dependent on the people you interact with. There is nothing more important for your success than the quality of your relationships and the nature of the people who surround you. Exalt yourself by exalting your social circle. Start communicating with people who are honest and sincere, willing to help, professional, smart, compassionate and inspire you - and find a way to help them. Then your world and your path to success will change instantly.
5. Your hopes for quick success and recognition hinder your long-term growth.
Your desperate desire to be at the top does not allow you to reach the top, because you are focused on those emotional (and financial) rewards that - as you think - are waiting for you there, and not on what you are doing in the world that is valuable now.
To get rid of these obstacles, you should daily
Learn how to do more good and at a higher level.
Open your eyes to what you don’t know, but what you need.
Achieve results that are comparable to the highest level in your area.
Sincerely communicate with people who do what you want to do.
Thinking of success in a broader sense, h
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